How To Get What You Want In Bed

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Not many people know it, but getting exactly what you want in bed is easy. There’s a trick to it, but once you master it you are almost guaranteed to get the kind of passionate sex you are looking for. Want to know the secret? Read on.

The problem

The problem with not getting what you want in bed isn’t to do with some external force. For once, it’s not them, it’s you. Why? Because when we jump into the sack we expect people to know what we want, when we want it, and how long for. We put a lot of pressure on someone to be able to pleasure us the way that we want but find ourselves disappointed when we don’t get it.

The reason? We don’t talk about sex.

Talking about sex is still a very taboo thing for some people, while others find it an uncomfortable subject to talk about. They are scared of saying the wrong thing to their partner and upsetting them, or they are worried that their partner will reject what they suggest because they simply don’t want to try it.


Trust is important, whether it is a long term relationship or a casual hook-up. If you don’t feel relaxed and at ease with the person then you are less likely to open up to them about your deepest desires and fantasies in the bedroom.

When you have that trust, as you will have with an escort, you can talk about anything. You feel safe and secure that they will not judge you and will help you in any way that they can, be it someone to listen or someone to try new things with.

Building the trust and relationship between you and your partner is one of the important aspects of getting exactly what you want in the bedroom. Try spending more time together away from the bedroom and talking, or let them take complete control of things in the bedroom. It will help you both trust each other that little more.
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Start small

One of the other main concerns for people is that their desire may be too extreme or too much for their partner, and so put them off wanting to try it. The best way to avoid that is by not rushing immediately into it and thinking of the small steps you might need to take to achieve what you want.

If, for example, you wish to try foot fetish, you could offer to massage their feet after they’ve had a hard day. Not only will they appreciate the gesture and give you the chance to be more intimate with their feet, but they will also become accustomed to you touching and playing with their feet. When it seems normal to them you will be able to experiment a little more.

Simply ask

However, if you are already both trusting of each other and you feel comfortable talking to them about sex, you can simply just ask. The likelihood is that they will be willing to listen and at least try some of the things with you, even if it doesn’t work out how you want it to.

What advice would you have for getting what you want in bed? Are you the person who can ask or do you keep quiet and hope? Tell us on the Escort Norway forums.

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Martin Ward

Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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