The Ultimate Bondage For Beginners Guide

Bondage is a lot of fun, but plenty of kinky people out there eager to try it aren’t sure where to start. It might be that you have your own ideas about what it involves, or what you might have to do. People often hear the word “bondage” and immediately think of whips, chains, and pain… but that isn’t the point of it. The ultimate point is to take away control and restrain you in some way, which can be really kinky when done right.

A woman enjoying a little bondage

So, if you haven’t tried it before, what do you need to know to get the most from your first session ?Here on the Escort Norway blog we have put together our ultimate bondage for beginners guide. Take a look at the tips below and see if they can help you to fulfil your kinky fantasy.

Communication is key

Don’t jump straight into bondage without at least talking to your partner about it. If you do, you might find that your idea of what this hot and kinky bit of fun is about doesn’t match your partner’s ideas. They might think it is more Fifty Shades of Grey and less “tie me, tease me, fuck me”.

So, the most important thing you can do before enjoying a little kinky fun is to sit down and talk with your partner about it. You should go through the things that you think are a part of bondage and see if they agree. Come up with a list of things that are acceptable to do and things that you don’t want to try. Setting your hard limits early on means you are less likely to cross that line.

Something else you should do by talking is set a safe word. If you try any kind of kinky fun without setting a safe word, you’re going to have a bad time. For some, “no” is a part of it. If they are begging their mistress to stop whipping them, it adds to the fantasy. Make sure you find a word you aren’t likely to shout out in the heat of the moment, and agree that, if the word is used, the fun will stop immediately.

Saying the word doesn’t mean you are weak. In fact, some people say the word so that they can talk to their partner about what is going on. Need a quick breather? Say the word, explain to your partner why you’ve said it, and take a moment.

Safety first!

Before you start your fun, you should think about safety. Having a safe word is a start, but there are a few things that you should do first.

First of all, you should be sober
. Yes, having a drink might give you a little bit more courage and help you to lose your inhibitions, but it also means that accidents are more likely to happen. Stay sober and you’ll find that your fun is even hotter than before!

Playing with handcuffs is fun, as is a little kinky rope play, but if you want to try bondage, stay safe. Have a spare set of keys for the handcuffs nearby, just in case you need them. Keep scissors capable of cutting through the rope somewhere. It is better to be safe than sorry!

A little bit of bedroom bondage

Not sure where to start? The bedroom is the ideal location. The one who will be restrained should then sit on the bed, offering their hands to their partner. The partner can then (loosely) tie the ropes around the wrists, making it so that they cannot move their hands.

Then, start slowly. The one tied up should be teased. Gently kisses and licks over the body work well, as it will get them turned on and eager to touch their partner. Because their hands are bound, they can’t. All they can do is watch.

If they start to touch your using other parts of their body, stop them. Tell them they must simply obey and enjoy what you are doing to them. It will be a huge turn on for you both, as when you think they have been teased enough, you can free their hands. You could even leave their hands tied during sex for an even hotter twist.

Getting tied up elsewhere

Want to take things out of the bedroom? Any room works well. Grab a chair and tie your partner to it, or ask your partner to tie you to it. Get them to give you a strip tease or a lap dance, as you won’t be able to do anything. You will be unable to touch them as they tease you, and it will be a huge turn on for you!

They might even choose to tie you up in a doorway before going down on you. It’ll be a huge rush for you as you look down at them, seeing their lips wrapping around your cock. You won’t be able to put your hands in their hair as they will be tied up, so you’ll have to beg them to suck your harder and faster.

It could be that you want to go from bondage to a little bit of whipping. Spanking is popular with bondage, as you have no choice but to take the punishment, so start off slowly and lightly to get the most out of it.

A guide for beginners

Not sure what else you need to know about bondage? The Escort Norway fetish scene might be the perfect place to go. Here you’ll find plenty of kinky people like you talking about this fun fetish. They’ll have some great tips for you to enjoy.

Got something you want to say about this blog? You can use the comment box below to let us know what you’re thinking. Perhaps you have some hot tricks to share?

We want to hear from you, so let us know what you think. Are you a big bondage fan, or is it something you don’t enjoy?

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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One thought on “The Ultimate Bondage For Beginners Guide”

  1. I like being tied up, it can excite me at times. Before I didn’t like it, but I have grown to enjoy it very much 🙂

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