The Sex Work Stigma Busted By Sex Workers!

Stigma plays a huge part in our perception of the world around us. It is formed by things like the media posting outlandish stories on the front of newspapers and rumours about what things are really like, and there is no stigma more deadly than the one surrounding sex work.

Woman in black and red shoes walking down the street

When you look at the general public, there seems to be a lot of them who believe that the sex industry it wrong, and that those who are a part of it really don’t want to be there. While we here on Escort Norway know that isn’t the case, there are still plenty who don’t, and who better to prove them wrong than the escorts themselves?

Escorts spread diseases

One of the first arguments against sex work that you will hear is that sex workers spread diseases. After all, they are being paid to have sex, and sex leads to dirty and disgusting things happening. They will spread STIs and STDs to others, and so it must be stopped before these diseases take over the world!

The people who say this, escorts often point out, ignore two very vital things. For one, having sex with a sex worker isn’t like a one night stand. They make their money from sex, so catching an STI or STD is ridiculously risky for them, and they don’t want to do anything that might put their own health at risk. You are more likely to catch an STD or an STI from a one night stand, because escorts and other sex workers will insist on using condoms.

The other vital thing that people forget is that sex work or prostitution is referred to as the oldest profession in the world, and if they really did go around spreading these diseases in the way that people seem to suggest they do, then pretty much everyone in the world would be infected. That isn’t how it works, and you are more much likely to catch a sexual infection or disease from someone other than a sex worker.

It is easy to do and it is lazy work

There are plenty of sex workers who can tell you how often they have had their work referred to as lazy or easy by the general public. For whatever reason, they think that sex work is where you simply lie on your back with your legs in the air and that there is absolutely nothing else to it.

For the unhappily married or those having unsatisfying sex that might well be the case! However, those of us who enjoy sex and have fun doing it will take a much more active role in bed, instead of simply lying there with our legs open in the hope that we might magically get an orgasm with no effort whatsoever.

Being a sex worker is also, as the name suggests, a lot of work. They don’t call it work for nothing, many sex workers will point out. You can’t simply just let a client into your home and let them fuck you. It isn’t as simple as that. You need to plan and prepare, making sure you look as they have requested you to and that your home is ready for their arrival. When they do arrive, you need to make sure the experience you give them is right for them. For example, a dominatrix won’t lie there and let a client fuck them. That isn’t what domination is about. Instead, the sex worker will make the entire session perfect for the client so that it suits their needs. This kind of session takes a lot of work.

All sex workers hate their jobs

If you want to put an end to something, rumours are a good way to go about it. With the sex industry, those rumours will focus on what the sex workers apparently want and what they hate the most about their work. If you ask those spreading these rumours, sex workers hate every about their jobs.

There is this belief that sex workers aren’t doing it because they want to. For whatever reason, people believe that sex workers have been forced into doing this for a living and that they hate their jobs because they cannot get out.

Speaking to most sex workers you would find that this definitely is not the case. If anything, the sex workers say that their job is empowering. They have control over what happens in a session, which clients they see, and when they work. That isn’t something that you will get with most other jobs, and so that is just another reason for them to love their work.

All sex workers have bad childhoods and come from broken homes

Those who believe that sex work is evil and should be ended won’t be happy spreading rumours about the current situation of sex workers. They want everyone to believe that they have ended up in this situation not through choice, but a series of unfortunate events that have led to them falling into this horrid world.

One of the big rumours and speculations is that sex workers have had difficult childhoods growing up, possibly with abuse, and that they come from broken homes. They are poor and have struggled all of their life with it, and aren’t educated enough to get another job. After all, no happy family could ever raise someone to do something unconventional, could they?

This rumour is spread through the media, with plenty of TV shows and films buying into this myth. However, a huge number of studies show that a large percentage of sex workers actually have a University level education, and many will tell you that they weren’t abused when growing up. Of course, these studies tend to be ignored, because why would you start to listen to those coming forward with the evidence that would prove your ridiculous generalisation wrong?

All sex work clients are just desperate or creeps

It isn’t enough to simply attack the escorts and spread this belief that their lives have forced them into this situation. They also have to attack the clients that they spend time with, making out that they are horrible creeps after nothing but sex, and that they are just desperate for company that they cannot get anywhere else.

Most escorts will tell you that their clients are actually polite and perfectly normal people. They are the businessmen you see having coffee at a café at lunch time, they might be the doctor you see for an appointment when you are feeling unwell, they might even be one of the faces you see on the front of magazines. Clients see sex workers not because they have no other choice, but because they have plenty.

They will be looking for a very specific experience. They might want to explore a fetish they cannot explore with anyone else, and so they want to speak to the experts about it. They want to spend some time with someone who won’t judge them, and that is what an escort does.

The only way to tackle this ridiculous stigma is to speak out about it and have sex workers come forward, showing that they are here because they want to be, and not because they are forced to be… but are the people listening? With the news recently following the story of Amnesty International and their call for decriminalisation, now might be the perfect time to fight to stigma of sex work. What do you think? Will the world ever accept sex work as real work? Let us know in the comment box below or by visiting the Escort Norway forum.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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