The Kinky Guru Looks At Tantric Sex

Dear Kinky Guru, I want to explore Tantric sex but I don’t want to read a book. Is there a form to Tantric sex to follow?

Sincerely, Frantic-to-get-Tantric

A man takes a class, teaching about tantric sex

Dear Frantic-to-get-Tantric,

Simmer your senses and breathe. Your Tantric sexuality is a sensual, slow art that needs practice before mastery. It’s a shared meditation, an awakening of two minds and their body’s sexual energies.

Tantric sex is not just sexual healing, it’s sexual LSD.

Ancient Indian scriptures tell us that the energy levels of the human body are controlled by nine chakra wheels. They all pass in a vertical straight line through your body. Through activation and connection of these chakras during a sexual union, a higher dimension is achieved together as one.

To achieve sexy enlightenment, you’re going to have to slow down, slower than you’re used to. Sure the sexual bliss of climax is delicious but it’s not the goal. Tantric sex involves a deep meditative awareness. You’ll discover it’s not sex that gives you ecstasy but by being truly present and aware in the act that you feel a blissful feeling, a thoughtless place of mind.

When sex is experienced with the lights on, with eye contact and with prolonging climax, there’s an investment of intensity, intention and presence of mind into every breath. To prolong climax, practice deep breathing exercises.
Sex organs melt into each other and vital energy is exchanged.

Set the scene to please your senses. Light candles, play some soft music and lay out aphrodisiacs like strawberries, chocolate and a mild red wine. Burn some sandalwood or lavender incense.

1) Sit down across from one another and relax, gazing comfortably at each other in the candlelight.

2) Move your fingers all over your partner’s body to awaken their nerves. Brush them down the length of the body almost touching their privates.

3) Now relax. One of you may choose to lead but both of you should begin to touch your own nipples in a spiral motion while gazing at each other’s eyes. Continue for nine long, deep breaths.

4) There are 9 chakras to get touching! All in multiples of nine please! Move your fingers from your nipples down to your ribs and in a spiral motion for 18 breaths. Move now to end of your ribs and repeat the motion for 27 breaths. Move down between the ribs and the navel and repeat for 36 breaths. Now just below the navel and the pubic bone, repeat the spiral motion for 45 slow breaths. Then massage midway between the pubic bone and the navel for 54 breaths. Then just above the pubic bone for 63 breaths. Then massage your privates for 72 breaths. At last, massage just behind the genitals for 81 breaths. Lie next to one another but don’t touch each other.

Awaken the Kundalini: Clothing optional

Kundalini is a primal energy that’s coiled at the base of your spine like a sleeping serpent waiting to awakened. To awaken your partner’s kundalini, sit behind your lover so that your chest touches their back. Repeat the massage in multiples of nine covering all nine of their chakras. Once you’re finished, your partner sits behind you and they awake your kundalini. Indulge in aphrodisiacs as you awaken the primal sexual energy inside one another.

Now turn up the heat in the kitchen and merge your sexual energy. Sit facing one another preferably with your knees touching. Place one hand on your heart and the other on your privates. Sway back and forth while looking at each other’s eyes. Do this calmly and slowly.

When you breathe in, lean back and when you breathe out, lean forward. Massage your nipples and shift your gaze from your partner’s eyes to their privates. Take your hand and touch your partner’s shoulder. Your sexual energies have now contacted one another.

Observe as wave after wave of sexual energy crashes upon the shore of your consciousness. Now the woman mounts the man’s lap and sits down on him and facing him. He penetrates her while she sits on his lap and she locks her thighs.

The man’s right hand should be placed on her back between the shoulder blades and the left hand on her butt. The woman’s left hand should go between his shoulder blades and her right hand at his sacrum. In this position known as Maithuna, the energy chakras are aligned.

Gaze into each other eyes. Kiss one another softly. Breathe into one another and rock back and forth. Boom boom. You are now connecting the mind, body and soul.

Let your sway change into rocking and then into thrusting

Once upon a sexy time, this Kinky guru was shagging in the amazing butterfly position on the kitchen table. The key about the Amazing Butterfly position is to put your pelvis a foot lower than his then raise your legs and rest them on his shoulders. Even though our faces were far from each other, our eyes were glue on one another and we were breathing as one. Cosmically, we had left the kitchen and had ascended to a formless realm.

As you approach climax, pause. When you’re going to climax, clench your teeth and bring the sensation to a head just above your scalp. The point is to channel all the sexual energy that would leave at orgasm and keep it in the body giving you more energy. Prolonging the act increases the potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner.
You are making love yet you are not making it.

The biggest things to practice with tantric sex are (1) Breathing in each other’s breath (2) looking in each other eyes and (3) slowing down. You don’t go to a movie or a play to just see the final act or else you’ll have missed the rest the show! It reminds me of this speed limit sign I saw when I was in Jamaica. It didn’t actually state a speed limit, it simply said: Don’t be in a rush to get to eternity.

Regards,
The Kinky Guru

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Gabriella Zene is an American writer who joined the Escort Advertising team in early 2016. Since then, she has gained a fine reputation, and adds a high level of sex industry expertise to the team.

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