We all have desires and attractions, just like animals, but since we are humans with rationality, shouldn’t we be able to stop ourselves from doing “it like they do it on Discovery Channel”?
Is there anybody who hasn’t fantasised about a coworker? Probably not, since spending so much time with somebody makes people have all kinds of feelings. But there is a long way from daydreaming to actually doing it. Some have the power to say “No” to something that might hurt them while some just don’t think about the consequences of their actions.
Getting involved with a coworker might seem like an exciting thing to do since it can implicate sneaking around, pretending not to have anything to do with each other and many people find this rousing. Well, it can be…until everything blows up in your face.
Boobs Are the Only Two Things Men Can Focus at Once
While a work affair might begin as a safe and fun thing to do, it can be more distracting than you can imagine. If you used to go to the office thinking about how to solve all the work related issues after you begin your love episode, the only problem you have is flirting.
No, not only men can’t focus on two things at the same time, especially when it comes to emotions. You think you’re a powerful woman and you can deal with everything at the same time? How about the fact that as soon as your eyes are set on your coworker, you begin concentrating more on your looks than on your brains?
When romantic advances start, your concentration dies little by little. This can happen even when you fall for somebody outside your office, but that’s different. When your relationship is outside the workplace, you don’t have to prioritise it when you should focus on your job…You’ll see each other afterwards… When you work together…all you think about is a coffee break and lunch time, right? Some even started smoking because of flirting.
If your centre of attention is easily lost just because of teasing and making sheep’s eyes at somebody, how bad can it get if you have sex with that co-worker?
Save the Drama for Yo’ Mamma
Sometimes sex involves lots of drama. It’s always hard to deal with relationship problems but it’s even more difficult to handle them at your workplace, where everybody gets directly or indirectly involved.
People gossip without giving them a reason, but can you imagine how they act when you do give them grounds? Even if you are one of the strongest people who don’t give a damn about what people think or say, you might actually care a bit when your boss has an opinion about your sexual life.
And if this isn’t sufficient drama for you, think about it this way: no matter what happens and where your sex fling goes, the two of you are going to see each other EVERY DAY. How do you feel about that? I bet you didn’t see the dark possibility of the future when you saw her boobs or when you looked at his ass, did you?
Don’t Hook Up It’s a Trap
Many people say that they had affairs at work and they didn’t encounter any focus issues or drama. Lucky bastards!
So, let’s say you have this phantasmagoric sexual life at your workplace, you are able to pay attention to your job, instead of focusing on the blowjob, and your other coworkers are totally supportive, minding their own business.
What happens if you want to stop? Can you tell her you are bored of her ass, and keep receiving a happy “Good morning” from her every day? Can you tell him you want to sleep with the HR guy and feel comfortable seeing him sitting on the chair next to yours every single day?
What are your options? Well, you can speak your mind and get ready to spend your days in a hostile environment hoping the tension would diminish soon, you can be in an unhappy relationship, or you can quit your job. Do any of these work for you?
OK Cinderella, There’s a Chance for a Happy Ending
Romance can begin everywhere, even at the office, and sometimes a fling can turn into the love of your life. The chances for this to happen at a workplace are quite low, but if there are some, we have to accept them, right?
How can sex with a coworker become a happy relationship? It depends on both people, on the work environment, the other coworkers, on so many variables that the chances for you to nail it are pretty low…However, if you want to dream about it, nobody can stop you, not even reality…
But, to keep you safe, if your job doesn’t involve giving or receiving blowjobs, you should avoid getting into sexual relations at your workplace. You know what they say: Don’t shit, where you eat!
OK, am I being too harsh? If so, let me know in the comments section below!
She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.
When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.