Sexual Partners: Does Your Number Matter?

For a lot of people, knowing your number of sexual partners is a big deal. They feel like this can somehow change how you are in the bedroom. They feel that the number of sexual partners you have had might have an impact in some way. But does your number really matter?

A couple having hot sex on the bed

Here on the Escort Norway blog we take a look at this. Does your number matter? Why do people think it matters? And why are there so many sex studies into it?

Talking about your number

When you are hanging out with friends one of the things that you will talk about is your number of sexual partners. It seems to be a hot topic of conversation, no matter who you are. If you talk about sex with your friends, you’ll probably have also talked about how many people you’ve slept with.

Lots of people believe that the numbers spouted by friends aren’t actually accurate. You’ve probably heard the rubbish “theory” about people’s numbers. They say that men exaggerate, so halving their number will give you the actual number. They also say that women make their numbers lower, so doubling them gives you the truth.

Of course, this is rubbish for a lot of people out there. If anyone ever asks my number I’m honest about it. To me, the number of people I’ve fucked means nothing.

Average sexual partners

However, for some people it is a big deal. There have been plenty of studies throughout the years to try and determine just what the average number of sexual partners is.

Back in 2010, the Health Survey for England examined the mean number of sexual partners for men and women. They found that women had an average of 4.7 partners, while men had 9.3.

Then, just three years later, the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles came around. This survey also looked at the mean. However their results were different. They found that women had an average of 7.7 sexual partners and that men had 11.7.

Very different numbers… how do you compare?

The dream number

There has been a more recent study keen to figure out what the truth is and just how people feel about these numbers. For a lot of people having too many sexual partners brings up a red flag.

The Sexual History and Present Attractiveness study discovered that the perfect number of sexual partners is three.

Three seems like nothing. But the researchers found that people want someone with some experience but not too much. For men, this means that having more than six partners is bad news. Women can have up to eleven before they are considered “promiscuous”.

Okay, so it wasn’t the biggest of surveys. In fact, just 188 people were quizzed. 104 of those interviewed were women, so we can’t say how accurate this is. However, the authors of the survey did say the following:

“Contrary to the idea that male promiscuity is tolerated but female promiscuity is not, both sexes expressed equal reluctance to get involved with someone with an overly extensive sexual history.”

Does it really matter?

So does your number of sexual partners actual matter? For me personally it really isn’t a big deal. As long as you have been practising safe sex, I could not care if you have slept with one person or a hundred people.

Of course, this is just me. You might feel a little differently. You might think that having too many partners is bad for you. So we want to hear from you.

Tell us what you think about this by leaving a comment in the box below and joining in the discussion. Is it a big deal? Does it matter?

You should also take the time to vote in our poll. We want to see what the average number of sex partners is for Escort Norway, so place your vote!

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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