Premature Ejaculation: How To Last Longer

When you are struggling with premature ejaculation, it can sometimes feel like the entire world is against you. Those with severe premature ejaculation could be made to feel as though the only way to prevent it is to resort to medication. Taking medication might seem like a great idea, but it can have a number of other side effects for you to worry about. So what else can you do when you want to last longer in bed?

A couple trying to work their way through problems with premature ejaculation

Thankfully, there are a number of different techniques that you can try without having to take any medications. Best of all? These suggestions come from those who suffer with premature ejaculation, so they have already been tried and tested. All you have to do is figure out which one works best for you.

Kegel exercises

Kegel exercises, contrary to popular belief, are not just for ladies who have had children. They can actually work really well for those dealing with premature ejaculation. Best of all? You could be doing them right now and nobody would know.

It is easy to do Kegel exercises, but figuring out which ones to tense and relax can be tough. A good way to do it is when you pee. Partway through, try to stop or slow the flow, without tensing your abs, legs, or ass… and without holding your breath.

When you can do this, you have found the muscles you need to work on. Squeezing these muscles regularly can help you later on in the bedroom, so do a few reps right now while you are reading this article.

Jerk off first

One of the first suggestions that people come up with when it comes to premature ejaculation is to jerk off. It might sound like a strange suggestion, but people believe that you jerking off before your
fuck your partner will make you last that little bit longer in bed.

Ken Jeong jerking off in the air
Original source: Cerberus Daily News

Instead of blowing your load immediately, your body will take its time warming up. This means that you won’t be turned on as quickly, and so the chances are that you will last longer. Your orgasm the second time around will be delayed a little, giving you the chance to satisfy your partner in other ways.

Edging

Edging is a popular technique for many people. Not only does it lead to mind-blowing and intense orgasms, but it also helps you delay your orgasm a little better by learning where your point of no return in.

The point of no return is, quite simply, the part where you are so turned on and close to orgasm that you cannot stop it. By learning where this point is, you can prepare yourself better for sex.

When you get close to it during sex, stop and take a break. Use the time to pleasure your partner with your tongue until you calm down, before jumping back into it. Not only will your partner get a hell of a lot of orgasms and pleasure, but you’ll also last longer in bed and get a great orgasm at the end. What more could you ask for?

Breath play

When sex feels good, you start to breathe faster. You need more air to help keep things going, but when it comes to premature ejaculation, this can often be a part of the problem.

Gimli in Lord of the Rings telling you to keep breathing
Original source: Dundee Runners

A lot of people dealing with it have said that concentrating on their breathing and slowing it down, or even holding their breath, can help delay their orgasm. Some even say that breath play is the only thing that helps them, but if you are going to experiment with this, take care.

Practice makes perfect

They say that practice makes perfect, and that is definitely true when it comes to premature ejaculation. Instead of constantly worrying that you aren’t going to last longer enough to make your partner come, you should keep working at it.

Imagine the people who can karate chop through thick planks of wood without a problem. That isn’t something that they were instantly able to do, and so you need to keep working at it.

In time, you will find that you start to last longer in bed. So keep at it, keep trying, and slowly but surely things will get better for you in bed.

Change the position

Some people don’t like the idea of just continuing to fuck themselves to orgasm in a matter of seconds, hoping that things will change. Frankly, we aren’t either, but it is something that a lot of people dealing with premature ejaculation say helps. However, we have something else that you might love to try… and that is a new position.

A couple fucking on a bed
Original source: Hottest Sex Positions

The positions you fuck in might actually be the problem. You could be going too deep and hard, which leads you to orgasm quickly. Instead, choose a position that allows for short, shallow thrusts. The one shown in the gif above is perfect, as your cock will rub against her g-spot without allowing you to go too far. Orgasms for her and a delayed orgasm for you!

Seeking medical advice

It can be difficult to get to that point where you have tried all sorts of different techniques, only to find that nothing works for you. It can genuinely make you feel awful, and so seeking medical attention is even harder.

We don’t like admitting we have problems, mainly because we don’t want our doctor to laugh at us. However, doctors hear worse things on a regular basis, and they might even have some more techniques for you to try without resulting to medication.

If you think that it is time to speak to your chosen medical professional, do it. They are there to help you, so don’t worry.

Dealing with premature ejaculation

Even with the above techniques and medical help, you might find that you blow your load a lot sooner than you were hoping to. If so, don’t worry about it. It happens, and if you have an understanding partner, they won’t resent you for it.

Will Smith in Men In Black saying
Original source: Reason Talk

If you really want to make them feel good, concentrate on foreplay. Don’t start fucking until you have made them scream your name a few times, and they won’t care so much about when you finish. Just make sure you both have fun and when you cum won’t be as much of a problem as you think it is.

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Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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