Let’s Talk About Sex: 3 ‘How To’ Tips

Communication is one of your most useful and important tools in the bedroom. Talking to your partner about your likes, dislikes, and fantasies will help you both understand each other a little better, while also helping to increase the connection between you.

Unhappy couple sitting on bedBut for some reason, talking about sex is a problem for some people. They find it strange and uncomfortable to let their partner know what they want, and so the partner is expected to be a mind reading. It can not only put a strain on your relationship but also make it more difficult to talk about things in the future.

Why Talk About it?

As a shy woman, I have always found it difficult to talk about sex. It was only recently, when talking to a friend, that I realised how silly it was. She told me how open her and her partner were about it, and that they would discuss what worked or didn’t work for them afterwards. Not only do they have a great relationship, but they also have a fantastic sex life because they both know how to satisfy the other – no guess work involved.

Man and woman being intimate in kitchenUse the tips below to get the conversation started. In no time, you’ll be able to discuss it all and spend more time in the bedroom enjoying yourselves.

There is no right way to do it

There isn’t a wrong or right way to talk about sex. It all depends on you and your partner, and what you feel comfortable talking about. For some, they might just about manage to say what feels good, but for others they might be able to go into detail about everything. Start off by letting your partner know what feels good for you. It doesn’t have to be “I love it when you kiss my neck” – it can be a little moan. Anything to let your partner know you like it.

Confidence is key

If you aren’t sure what you want to say, then take the time to think about it. When you know exactly what you want, it is easier to explain to others. How many times have you said to a friend/partner/family member “where do you want to go?” only for them to respond with “I don’t know”? Be confident with what you want and you’ll be able to tell others.

Take the good with the bad

Nobody is perfect. We all get things wrong sometimes. The key is not letting it control your mood. If your partner tells you that they don’t like something you could have sworn they loved, don’t worry about it too much. Take what they say as a chance to get to know them a little better and to learn from past mistakes.

Try it and see

Couple on bed being intimateHonestly, what is the worst thing that could happen from talking? You might get a bit embarrassed, but imagine the rewards! Once you’ve managed to get talking, you should notice an improvement in the bedroom. If you don’t, why not talk to one of the escorts in Oslo? They are incredibly intelligent, and are bound to have some great tips for talking to that special someone.

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Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
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