Everything You Need To Know About Spanking

Those eager to explore BDSM might find the idea intimidating… especially when you hear talk of flogging, whipping, and caning. These might all be things that you want to work up to, but you’ll want to start off slowly. That is why spanking is the perfect place to begin.

Couple in a sexy role playing game enjoy some spanking

However, figuring out what you need to know about spanking can be tough. There is so much information out there, with people mixing in information about caning and flogging, that it is hard to figure out what is essential information. That is why, here on the Escort Norway blog, we take a look at everything you need to know about spanking.

Preparation is important!

You might not realise it, but if you really want to enjoy a good spanking, there is a bit of preparation involved first. First of all, you should talk to your domme about your interests. They will then be able to talk you through the way that they like to spank, so that you know exactly what to expect.

You can also take the time to discuss a safe word. A safe word is something that you can say in the middle of the spank to stop things and take a little break. If you find that you aren’t enjoy it as much as you expected, this is the perfect thing to do. Not sure what to make your safe word? On Reddit Sex you can read a few suggestions that they had.

You should also take the time to thoroughly clean the areas that will be spanked. These tend to be the fleshier areas of the body, such as your ass and the back of your thighs. By spanking these areas, you’ll still get the sting but without causing damage.

It is also a good idea to check those areas while you clean. You might find that you have a cut, and breaking the skin during a good spanking isn’t a great idea, as it can lead to complications. If you have any concerns, warn your mistress, as they will then inspect and avoid those areas. After all, you want to have fun!


Just like with any other kind of kinky stuff, spanking requires a little bit of foreplay, or a warm up in order to make it as pleasurable as possible.

A man massaged a woman's ass before spanking her
Original source: Tumblr

Your domme will begin by massaging the area that they wish to spank. This isn’t only to make you feel good. Massaging will increase the blood flow to the area, which will make you more sensitive. They might even try a few small slaps on your ass to see what happens.

When they are satisfied that your ass is looking like it is blushing, the fun can really start, as you will feel the tingle from every spank on your body!

Positions and the fantasy

Some people just love the idea of being spanked, but for others it ties into a fantasy. The most popular is the naughty student and the school mistress. There are a few positions that are really popular here, and the first is over the knee. Your mistress will sit down on a chair and make you lie across them, so that your ass sticks out a little. They will then firmly hit your ass a few times, “punishing” you for what you have done.

Alternatively, they could bend you over a desk. This gives you a hard surface to cling to, and the fact that you can’t move forward because of the desk is an even bigger turn on.

There are also a number of different positions that your domme might want you in. They may get you to stand against a wall and facing it, so that you cannot see when they are going to spank you. They might even use restraints on you so that you have no choice but to take your kinky punishment!

A woman bent over the knee, enjoying a spanking
Original source: Tumblr

After the spanking

Once you have enjoyed being spanked, your domme might then offer you a little after-care to make sure you feel all of the benefits of the spank. You’ll be offered a drink of water, just to make sure you haven’t become dehydrated during your session.

They might also give you an ice pack to put on the sensitive area. This will help to reduce the swelling so that you can go about your business with no-one else but you knowing that your ass stings a little!

If you are feeling a little faint, tell your mistress. They will get you to lie down for a minute, and it is always a good idea to have some sweets to hand. The sugar will really help you, and it is nice to enjoy a sweet treat after a good spank!

Moving on up

If you have enjoyed being spanked, you might decide that it is time to move on to bigger and better things. You can talk to your dominatrix about their preferences, but you might have a few ideas of your own.

Many people will go for a strap or a paddle. As you can see below, these might have words on them. They will sting a little more than the hand, and there is a chance that they can leave a pattern or a word on you, effectively marking you for your domme and making you theirs.

A woman drops a spanking paddle for her partner
Original source: Imgur

The more hardcore among you might decide to go for something a little kinkier. Toys like floggers, crops, whips and canes put more distance between you and your domme, so they can really come down on you. However, because these sting more, you’ll need more time to work up to them. Got some tips to share? We want to hear from you, so leave a comment in the box below.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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