Does Your Number Of Sexual Partners Matter?

Have you ever watched the movie ‘Clerks’ where Dante gets mad at Veronica when she told him that she sucked 36 cocks in her lifetime? That scene did make me laugh, though, when Dante said that he basically had 36 cocks in his mouth every time that he went down on her. However, when Veronica said that she didn’t freak out when Dante told her how many girls he had slept with and his reply was: ‘This is different, this is important.’ It just made me think: ‘Well…how is it different and why would it be important for a guy to know how many sexual partners Veronica has had?’

Sensual blonde woman in bed thinking of her previous sexual partners

When are we going to get this idea out of our heads that people are are sluts when they’ve slept with more than 10 people in their lifetimes? What we need to remember that both men and women get slated if they say that they’ve had a lot of sex partners since they were horny teenagers. When a guy says that he’s fucked a lot of people, some gossip would be spread around that he’s not the kind of person you should fall in love with, just because of the amount of people he has been with. When a girl says that she’s been getting dirty with a lot of people, the ultimate reaction from another person would be ‘Slut!’ or ‘Whore!’. Just because she has had a few sexual partners in her time.

This article is going to be more opinionated than my other articles because the subject, I feel, needs to be addressed to the people who have mixed views about how sexually active they’re allowed to be…Just to warn you, readers.

Who cares if you’ve fucked a few guys you’ve met on Tinder?

Was there ever a time in your life when you lay in bed and replay all of the sex sessions that you’ve had with numerous amount of people in your lifetime, where you think:

‘Fuck, how have I gone from only having sex with my boyfriend when I was 17, to the point where I’d just fuck anyone who looks good to me when I was 24?’

Unfortunately, the reality at the moment is that women are directly under fire and scrutinized more than men. For instance, if a girl decides to have a one-night stand with a couple of guy who she recently got acquainted with on Tinder, she would think that she has to feel like a rotten egg after those little flings. However, she didn’t feel like that the next day, because she knew that she had fun that night and that she shouldn’t have to feel guilty because the number of people she had slept with has risen. The number of sexual partners just doesn’t matter to her.

You read a lot of news and articles on the internet about women being slated for being promiscuous or sexually active, but what people often fail to realise is that guys get burned by the same fire too. As much as a woman would be called a ‘hoe’ for getting a lot of guys into bed with her, a man would be called a ‘dirty fucker’ or a ‘pervert’ if he openly expresses that he’s fucked a lot of women.

Step out of the time machine…

Guys, it’s not 1920 anymore where the bible has told us that we could only make love to our husbands and wives. In our modern culture, it is encouraged to feel as liberated as you want to be when it comes to sex, or anything actually! If there are over 7 billion people alive in the world today, then who would have the right to say that you’re only allowed to be with one person for the rest of your life? What is the reality of things at the moment?

Some guys may feel that a number of people a girl has slept with would make him feel less special than he thought he was with that girl; vice-versa for the girl. This could be a reason why an individual would retaliate to a guy or a girl with harsh words like ‘fuck-boy’ or ‘slut’; especially if the relationship between them would turn sour.

What you hear about nowadays is that some people would even lie to their partners about how many people they have slept with because they don’t want to have any underlining affiliation to a slut or a fuck-boy.

Sexual partners and sexual experience

In my personal opinion, I would say that a guy or a girl who has slept with a lot of people would have more sex experience than a guy sleeping with the same girl for 17 years. Don’t get me wrong, you can always try out something new in the bedroom with your life-long partner, but when you start to fuck multiple partners, you’d never know what to expect with different people in the bedroom.

The first guy I slept with was a little basic with his moves, the second was very slow and intimate with me, the first enjoyed anal sex a lot and the fourth guy enjoyed a mix of both rough and soft sex. If I have a partner who would ask me how many guys and girls I’ve fucked before I met him or her, I would say to my companion:

‘What good would it be for you to know? I’m here with you now and I want to stay with you.’

If he or she asked out of pure curiosity and wanted to know more about my past sexual experiences, then it’s fine because I’d know that my partner wouldn’t have an agenda. Otherwise, my number of sexual partners just doesn’t matter.

The only thing that you have to think about at the end of the day is that you have enough self-love and respect to sleep with whoever you want. I’m not talking about what society tells you about self-respect, I’m talking about what you and only you think is self-respect.

You could have someone who would still be content if he or she hasn’t slept with more than 10 people, whereas another guy or girl would feel happy that he or she had fucked over 100 people in their lifetimes! As long as you don’t act like a dick to anyone that you’re being intimate with then it doesn’t matter if someone slanders you for bedding a lot of people in your past.

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Zoe Jaspers

Zoe Jaspers has worked in the adult industry for over a year, but she has already gained a fantastic reputation in the field. As a writer, she is passionate about bringing the reader some of the most interesting blog content around.

She is possibly most famous for her erotic stories, but is equally adept at giving top quality sex advice, all the time bringing in her 'personal experiences'.

When she isn't sharing her most intimate encounters, Zoe keeps herself active by watching videos on Youtube, and listening to music.
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2 thoughts on “Does Your Number Of Sexual Partners Matter?”

  1. I don’t think it matters to me, I would like to have sex with as many girls as possible, but it isn’t a big issue.
    I have been with maybe 20 girls in total, 10 being on here.

    I would be happy just staying with one girl for the rest of my life, just as long as I get to have sex with her.

  2. I know I haven’t really been with many women, if I was to count only those I have been with outside of this site, then it is only 3 women.
    I was married for many years and the sex was always good, till we started to hate each other 🙂
    You learn from experience.

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