Bondage: The Ultimate Tie And Tease Guide

Not everyone shares the same interests in bed. While you might enjoy a little vanilla sex, your partner might find the kinky things shown in Fifty Shades of Grey or BDSM porn videos is very tempting. They may want to submit to you, or to at least try out a little bit of bondage and explore their kinkier side. When that happens, it can be difficult to know just where to begin, and for many, tie and tease turns out to be the perfect place to start.

A woman holds some handcuffs in the bedroom for a little bondage fun

It is a great way to ease into the world of BDSM, and particularly bondage, without letting things get too overwhelming. You can start out gently, seeing what you like and don’t like, without allowing things to go too far. Why not use the ultimate tie and tease guide below to find out what you should try to make your little bondage session that little bit more fun? Here on the Escort Norway blog we have some great tips on getting started, as well as some fun things to make your tie and tease session memorable.

Safety advice

If you try bondage, or any other kind of BDSM, without first talking about the safety side of things, you are doing it wrong. The point of enjoying an act like this is that everyone is consensual. They all enjoy it and want to do it, but at any point during the fun, this can change.

It might suddenly stop being the kind of thing they are interested in, or you might cross a line. To avoid this happening, you should take the time to talk about your limits. If there is something that you absolutely will not do, this is a hard limit. For example, you might like the idea of tying your partner up, but you aren’t comfortable with saying degrading things to them while you do it. Soft limits are placed on those things that you are hesitant about, but under the right circumstances you are happy to try.

Another key area of bondage safety we need to talk about is the safe word. This is something you’ll hear about in all areas of BDSM, and that is because it is important. Setting and abiding by a safe word means that, at any point, you can stop the action. It might simply be that you need a minute to readjust, or that you aren’t enjoying it at all. Having a safe word means that either one of you can stop what is happening, and it is important to have in case you accidentally cross any lines.

Tying them up

You might look online for bondage porn and find that you are overwhelmed with the kind of positions people are being tied up in. If you are just trying bondage for the first time, don’t panic. You don’t have to truss them up like a goose at Christmas.

Instead, start small and see where it leads. Start by tying their wrists together and see how they react. If they seem to like it, you can try then tying their hands to the bed. Build your way up and see what they enjoy.

You also don’t need to spend a lot of money on rope. You can buy specialist bondage rope, which is a lot softer, but you can actually use things from around your house. Were you wearing a tie with your shirt? Take it off and use that. The material will be soft and add a kinky twist as they see that you are ready for bondage at absolutely any time.

Teasing them

For many people, it is the teasing part of tie and tease that they struggle with. Bondage, for many, seems pretty clear cut. They think that it involves pain and pleasure all at the same time, but what they don’t realise is that you can do so many other kinky things with it. This is why tie and tease is so good.

Have you ever wanted to tease your partner, licking her to the brink of orgasm before backing off? Have you ever hoped to hear her beg you for it, asking for you to put your cock inside of her and fuck her as hard as you can? Tie and tease gives you the chance to do this, driving her wild and begging you to give her what she wants.

It’s also a great alternative to foreplay. If you find foreplay a little dull, tying her up and teasing her can really warm things up. You’ll know just when you are going to give in, but she won’t. This means you can go for longer and, when she begs for it, she is definitely going to be ready for you. Plus, it is sexy as hell.

Exploring bondage further

For many of us, tie and tease is the perfect introduction to bondage. We get to explore being tied up without going straight in at the deep end. Afterwards, we can talk about what we liked and what we didn’t like about it. This can help us establish our hard and soft limits, perfect for taking things further.

But where can you go from this? Spanking is a good next step. If your partner struggles against their restraints too much, a little tap on their ass will tell them off. You can also tell them that they are being a bad girl and watch how they squirm as you tease them.

Got some other hot and sexy tips for tie and tease, or even some other suggestions for bondage that you want to share? It’s easy to do so. You can simply visit the Escort Norway forum and join in the discussion there, seeing what people have to say in the fetish scene, or you could just leave a comment in the box below. Tell us about your hottest tie and tease moments.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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