Bad Sex Is Real: Here’s How You Avoid It

There’s no such thing as bad sex, right? Wrong. Yes, sometimes you can have fantastic, mind-blowing sex, but other times it is perhaps so boring that you find yourself falling asleep, or worse, being unable to perform.

Frustrated Woman Sitting On Bed In Front Of Young Man

It’s kind of hard to deal with bad sex when it happens, especially if you aren’t sure what caused it in the first place, but here on Escort Norway we have some tips to help you figure out how to turn bad sex into good sex.

Be active

There are far too many people out there who are happy to jump into bed but then won’t put in the effort. They are often compared to wet fish or a sack of potatoes to have sex with, because they will simply lie there and let their partner put in all of the effort. It seems to be mostly women who are accused of this, but men are just as guilty.

You need to be taking an active role in sex, otherwise it will get boring for you both very quickly. After all, there’s only so much fun you can have lying there and not moving.

When you make the effort in bed, it comes back to you. So, if you want your partner to suck your dick until you are close to coming, you need to return the favour. So make sure you get down there and lick her clit.

If you aren’t sure about how active you are in bed, answer this question: how much time do you spend on foreplay? If the answer is no more than a few minutes, then you should be feeling bad about your sex techniques.

Women take a long time to warm up to sex. Even when they are in the mood, foreplay is a great way to make sure their body is as ready as their mind, so take the time to kiss, lick, and touch her body all over.

Not only will it really turn her on, but it will also get you going by seeing the way she reacts to you. See how long you can drive her wild for and wait to see what she does. She might just force you onto your back where you can watch her slide slowly up and down your cock. Trust me, the effort is definitely worth it.

Communicate!

It could be that what you are doing in the bedroom doesn’t interest you, and so you just wait for it to be over instead of taking an active part in it. If that is the case you are making a huge mistake by forgetting one of the most important things that makes sex great: communication.

If you can’t be bothered to open your mouth and say to your partner “this isn’t for me, how about we try this instead?” then the bad sex you get is as much of your fault as theirs. Yes, they should be looking for the signs, but if you aren’t willing to tell them it doesn’t work, what else are they supposed to do?

When it comes to sex you need to make sure what you are doing works for both of you, whether that is the sex position you are trying or the act you are enjoying. You have a voice, so start using it for something other than moaning and groaning when things get better.

With sex positions, sometimes it is best to see how things play out. However, when you have both finished, take the time to talk about it. Ask if the position worked for them, what they liked about it, and what they would change in the future. After sex is the perfect time to do this, as you will both feel relaxed enough to be more honest. It could be that they weren’t enjoying it so much either, and simply thought you were. If that is the case, you can try some new sex positions in the future. If not, just grow a pair and tell her why it wasn’t good for you.

As for not enjoying the act, if it is something BDSM related you have a safe word. It doesn’t make you weak to use your safe word. If anything, it shows that you know what you like and this isn’t it. Don’t be afraid to use it, as your partner would be far happier knowing that you will admit when things don’t work for you instead of sitting through it.

Faking it is bad

Men get very frustrated when women fake it in the bedroom. They believe that they can tell when the woman is faking an orgasm and say that it ruins their enjoyment of it. Well, women aren’t the only ones who fake it in the bedroom…

Yes, you might be saying that it is harder for a man to fake an orgasm, as the evidence is right there in the condom, but you can still fake your enjoyment. You might be pretending to enjoy what is happening, or worse, you might simply be acting like a porn star.

Unless you have talked about enjoying the PSE before you jumped into bed, don’t do it. Fake moaning and groaning is just as frustrating to a woman as it is to a man, so instead of doing it, try to go for something you enjoy more.

However, you need to also make sure that what you are doing isn’t causing your partner to feel like they have to fake it too. Your partner probably feels just as bad about faking an orgasm as you do when you realise she has been doing it. Take your time with sex so that she doesn’t feel like she has to fake it to stroke your ego. Slow foreplay works wonders, as she will then relax, knowing that you are willing to take the time to get her to orgasm, even if it takes her over ten minutes to get there.

Have you got some terrible sex stories to share with us? What are your favourite tips to make bad sex better? You can let us know in the comment box below, or you could head on over to the Escort Norway forum and share your thoughts there.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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