How To Avoid These Common Sex Mistakes

You might like to think of yourself as something of a sexpert, but the chances are that you’ll have made a few different sex mistakes in your time. It happens to us all at some point. We’ll do something in the bedroom that just doesn’t work and it leaves things a little awkward.

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Thankfully there are some easy solutions to help you avoid making these sex mistakes. We look at some of the most common sex mistakes, how they happen, and how you can make sure they never happen in the bedroom again.

Skipping foreplay

Sometimes we are so keen to jump into bed with somebody that we want to skip the foreplay and get straight to the fun stuff. The problem is that skipping foreplay is going to have a huge impact on your sex session.

For a start, rushing in too soon can actually hurt your partner. Without the warm up her body won’t have created the lubrication needed for your cock to easily slip inside. If you don’t have lube to hand, you could actually tear her when you fuck her. Not the kind of screaming you want from your steamy romp!

Gif from Lucifer
Original source: All Women’s Talk

A lot of women find that it takes them longer to reach orgasm than it does men. This means that, no matter what position you get into, she might be a little behind you. So you might not actually get the chance to enjoy their orgasm when it happens.

If you take the time to enjoy foreplay properly, the chances of her reaching orgasm increase. She’ll be turned on, which will make every touch more intense. Not sure how to make sure you spend the proper time on foreplay? Your phone can help. Simply set a timer for five or ten minutes and tell each other no sex until then. You’ll keep teasing each other until the time goes, and it will lead to really intense sex.

Forgetting it is give and take

Most people love having sex. It feels amazing, especially when you can feel your orgasm building. We might sometimes be a little selfish too, demanding that we get to orgasm before our partner does to guarantee a good time.

This is fine sometimes, but when it becomes a regular thing, it is a problem. Sex is about give and take. If you are enjoying plenty of hot orgasms, you need to make sure your partner is getting them too. That is why lots of people love the 69 position. It gives you the chance to pleasure your partner while they pleasure you.

A man and woman in 69 position
Original source: Tumblr

Trying to take it in turns can work wonders, especially during foreplay. If your partner has spent a little time going down on you, stop them before you cum. Switch so that you can eat them out and enjoy the taste of them on your tongue. Not only will this make your partner feel good, but it will also give you time to delay your orgasm. When you do finally fuck and get to enjoy it, it will be much more intense. What could be bad about that?

It is also worth switching positions regularly. Find out your partner’s favourite and enjoy it for a little bit of time before switching to yours. Then you’ll both get what you want!

Believing you are a sex god

Your previous experience in the bedroom might lead you to believe that you are a stud. All of the moaning and groaning your previous partners have done might make you think that you are a sex god, capable of making any woman orgasm simply by touching her.

There are a few problems with this. It relies on all future partners enjoying the exact same things in the bedroom that your previous did. It makes you lazy, and so instead of trying new things you’ll stick to the script.

Robert Downey Jr. talking about sex gods
Original source: We Heart It

Don’t do this. Instead, try to learn what your partner loves. You can do this by talking to them about their biggest turn ons. It isn’t wrong to talk about sex, and you’ll find it a lot easier to discover what they really love.

Explore their body. Tell yourself that you are going to stroke every inch of their body with your finger tips before you use your lips to kiss them all over. This will take time but also feel incredible for them. Consider using the timer trick to make sure you have enough time to explore.

Trying to skip the condom!

Condoms are a fantastic tool in the bedroom. They prevent unwanted pregnancies, STIs, and STDs so that you can leave your sex session with nothing but happy memories.

The problem is that a lot of people hate using them. They desensitise you during sex and just feel uncomfortable. If they feel uncomfortable then you might just be using the wrong condoms… either because they are too tight or too big.

Golden Girls talking about condoms
Original source: Bustle

If you don’t want to use a condom, that’s fine… but for a lot of people out there refusing to slip one on is a deal breaker. No condom, no sex. It is that simple.

Try out a few different condoms to find one that works for you. There are all sorts of different types for you to choose from. You can get some with ribs and dots to make it more pleasurable for your partner. You can even get some that have lube inside to numb your penis a little and make you last longer. Experiment and you are sure to find something you love.

Other common sex mistakes

There are so many sex mistakes out there that it is difficult to write about all of them. These are just the most common sex mistakes that people make, and how you can avoid making them.

Are you guilty of making any of these mistakes or have you managed to avoid them so far? We’d love to hear from you, so share your thoughts with us by leaving a comment in the box below.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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