Getting to enjoy regular orgasms during sex is something for a dream for a lot of us. It either requires us to find skilled partners in bed or means we have to actually get regular sex. If you are unhappy in your relationship, it can sometimes be difficult to get either of those. After a while, the sexual passion in a relationship will run dry, so the chances of having regular sex, let along regular orgasms, are lowered. This just means that we appreciate those orgasms when we do get them that little bit more.
When you have an orgasm, you feel pretty amazing. Sex is a good way to work out stress, and it is a fun way to let off steam when you’ve had a tough week at work. An orgasm during sex is just the cherry on an already good cake. Yet recently, people have been suggesting that having regular orgasms might actually be doing you more harm than good. Yes, we weren’t too sure either, so take a look with us at why having regular orgasms might be bad for you.
People like to research sex. It isn’t really a secret. We might still be coming to terms with the fact that people have sex and that what happens behind closed doors is no-one else’s business, but that doesn’t stop us from being curious. We want to know if the sex we are having is “normal”, if there is even such a thing as “normal sex”, and we want to know more about our romps between the sheets.
There have been so many bits of research done over the years to tell us more about sex. Thanks to this research we now know which sex position is the most dangerous (girl on top, sorry for you men hoping for a great view!), and that having regular sex can actually help to improve your mood and fight off depression.
That said, there has also been plenty of research into porn to tell everyone how “bad” it is, how “good” it can be for you, and pretty much everything in between. The latest study people are talking about is the one involving regular orgasms.
Regular orgasms can be bad for you…
The latest piece of research suggests that orgasms aren’t actually as good for you as we may think. Yes, they feel amazing, but it seems that there is a lot more to that feeling of ecstasy than we might have thought previously.
Now the issue, it seems, isn’t with any old orgasm. Go ahead, you can jerk off to porn and have sex with as many people as you want to. However, the research suggests that the problems and “danger” orgasms come from regular sex and having an orgasm every time that you have sex.
The belief behind the research is that having an orgasm every single time you have sex is then setting your expectations. If you start to expect an orgasm every time you fuck, you might be left disappointed if you don’t get it, even if you have some pretty great sex along the way.
It puts a lot of pressure on you and your partner. You’ll feel like an orgasm HAS to be there in order for the sex to be good, and if it isn’t, we might be tempted to fake an orgasm just to satisfy our partner. This isn’t healthy.
…but they can also be good for you!
That said, most of us are aware that having an orgasm every single time you have sex isn’t really going to happen. If you jump into bed with somebody new, you’re going to take the time to explore their body and see what makes them tick. You probably won’t get them to orgasm the first time, and that is totally okay.
Instead, you can take the time to explore their body and listen to what it is they like the most. This helps to make sure you give them an intense orgasm they won’t forget, instead of fumbling in the dark.
Plus, having orgasms can actually be good for you. If you have a headache, having an orgasm can get rid of it. Yes, really, so instead of reaching for the painkillers, go and have sex. Doctor’s orders!
Not only that, but sex and orgasms are a great way to release stress. Feeling pissed off after a tough day? Sex. Tired and struggling to sleep? Have an orgasm. Just want to relax and start your evening off in the best way possible? You’ve guessed it. If that wasn’t excuse enough, they also feel great! So, do the pros outweigh the cons?
What’s your verdict?
So, there are pros and cons to having regular orgasms. For me, it seems as though the pros definitely outweigh the cons. Yes, you might have unrealistic expectations of sex, but as a woman I know that not every steamy sex session is going to result in an orgasm. If it did, that would be fantastic, but the chances that a new lover knows just what to do to make me cum are slim, and exploring is part of the fun.
For the most part I think that we are all aware that sex isn’t like in the movies. It can be complicated, messy, and sometimes awkward. It can also be incredible, if we take the time to explore, but what do you think? Are regular orgasms really bad for you, or do you think we can manage our expectations to focus on our partner in bed?
Let us know either by leaving a comment in the box below or joining in the discussion on the Escort Norway forum. Maybe you have thought of some other orgasm cons, or perhaps you’ve had some kinky thoughts about why orgasms are oh so good for you? We want to know!
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.