Sex is a lot of fun, but sometimes it gets stale. We don’t mean for it to happen, but life can sometimes get in the way. Stress, exhaustion, and many other things can make our sex life suffer. When things start to go badly in the bedroom, foreplay is usually the first thing to be neglected.
Often we feel that we just don’t have the time to enjoy foreplay properly. We are so busy that spending half an hour in the bed with our partner without fucking them seems like a waste when we could be having sex and enjoying ourselves more. But the problem is that foreplay is a huge part of sex and can actually make it a lot more enjoyable, if you can find the right things to do.
Not sure what you can do to ensure your partner is having a great time in bed? Here on the Escort Norway blog we take a look at 5 ways you can make foreplay hotter than before and spice things up in the bedroom.
1) Play some games
There is a quick way to make things a little bit sexier in the bedroom, and that is by playing some games. You can adapt many games to make them sexy, such as card games, but there are also some games that people save especially for foreplay. Sex dice are a fantastic tool to keep to hand. They are small and discreet enough to be kept tucked away for that special moment, and they can really spice things up.
One die will list locations on the body, while the other has actions such as lick, suck, kiss, and stroke. Use the dice to help you decide where you are going to touch your partner. You could even add your own rules, rolling the dice in secret and getting your partner to try and perform the right action in the right place. When they guess correctly, you can then swap and explore their body.
Looking for more ways to spice things up? Take a look at some of our favourite sex games and see which your partner really wants to try with you.
2) Add a little music
Music can really alter the mood in the bedroom. Some slow and sensual music can help to stop you from rushing through the fun, and it actually works as a great timer.
Adding a timer is a great way to keep track of how long things are going on for, but the noise can really ruin the moment. Instead, create a playlist of music and use that to keep track of how long things have been going on for.
If you and your partner both choose a song you love, you’ll end up with around seven minutes of music. That makes it perfect for a little “seven minutes in heaven” fun! Use music to time yourself and you’ll find that the bass of the track helps you keep rhythm.
3) Send some dirty texts
Believe it or not, but foreplay doesn’t actually have to take place in the bedroom. It doesn’t even have to happen when you are in the same room! The best way to turn someone on for sex? Make them think about it and wait for it.
Sending a naughty text message earlier in the day will get your partner thinking of what is to come. A simple message like “I can’t wait to see you later ;)” will instantly make them wonder what you have planned, and the anticipation can be just as good as foreplay.
If you do it right, by the time you do meet up, they will want to jump on you. They will want to sit you down and ride you to orgasm. Okay, so it might not be the kind of kinky fun you had in mind, but it will definitely leave you feeling amazing.
4) Tempt, tie, and tease
There is nothing quite as sexy as lying your partner down in bed and slowly teasing them until they beg for you to fuck them. As they whisper “please” to you, you’ll find it almost irresistible to give in to your urges and have sex with them.
The longer you hold out, the better it will be. If you really want to make them desperate for you, try a little tie and tease. Not keen on tying them up? Use one hand to keep their hands still while you go to work on their body.
They’ll move against you, eager to feel your touch everywhere, but make it clear to them that you won’t actually give in and fuck them until they beg you for it. They will want to hold out for as long as possible to see who gives in first, and it will turn them on to have you exploring their body so much. Not sure where to start? Our blog about sexual teasing will help you figure out just how to make them desperate for your cock.
5) Try new things
The problem is that, often, we don’t have the time. Sex ends up being hard and fast, rather than slow and sensual, so finding the time to slowly turn your partner on just isn’t possible. However, there is a way that you can have some kinky fun in the bedroom even when you are sort on time.
The best thing that you can do is try something different. We tend to fall into a routine when it comes to sex, and the warm up is no exception. You might slowly kiss your way down their body and spend a little time between their legs before fucking them. It might work well the first time, but if you really want results, you’ll need to mix things up a bit.
If you always use your lips on them, keep your mouth away from their body. Use your fingers instead. Maybe even go for a sensual massage? It’ll help them de-stress and turn them on at the same time, all with a simple change. You could even try slowly undressing your partner instead of waiting for them to do it for you. Often, the little things can make a huge change to your sex life.
The best foreplay
If you really want to have the hottest foreplay of your life, you should talk to your partner. Tell them that you want to spice things up and make it more exciting for them. It could be that they didn’t realise things were getting a little stale, and so they are just as eager as you to make a change.
They might have a few suggestions for things to try in the bedroom. They might even have some other hot games they want to play with you.
When it comes to spicing things up in the bedroom, it can help to be imaginative, but more than anything, you should be open to trying new things. What is the worst that can happen? If it doesn’t work for you, then you have learnt a little about yourself. If it does, then you have a new hot thing to enjoy with your partner.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.